Reality Check Tuesdays – You Will Fail [Podcast]

In today’s reality check, I want to be real with you that in your life journey you have to…

…be ready to fail and make mistakes.

Unfortunately growing up for me I used to fear failure. That’s because I was told growing up that I would be punished for failing. I’d be punished for failing in school or failing at sports or failing at doing simple tasks or failing at saying certain things and the list goes on.

We are judged and pointed out when we make mistakes. The drama that comes with that is endless and it paralyzes us to do anything without thinking about it a million times over before we even try.

This fear is what stops most people from ever doing anything with their lives.

I see so many people stay exactly where they are in their careers because they are afraid of failing. They are afraid of doing something that is different because they don’t want to fail. They don’t want to feel ashamed of their failures. They don’t want people to call them out on it because they failed.

And unfortunately, I was a victim of that myself. I was paralyzed most of the time for doing anything more than going down the safe route because every time I entertained the idea of doing anything bigger with my life, like owning and running my own business, the insecurities of others around me and even myself would come up and kill the whole idea.

Nowadays I welcome failure with open arms. I don’t even care anymore because the more I move forward and take action and approach life fearlessly the more I learn and grow. When I make mistakes, like spending $2000 on a program that I didn’t even want to use, I learn best.

Along with my journey, I’ve made a lot of mistakes. Screwed up my website. Screwed up my ads. Spent a bunch of money on ads that didn’t get me any results. Creating videos that didn’t make any sense and probably scared more people away than it did attract. But that’s ok because I had to go through this to learn the lessons needed to move forward and improve upon. I also learned who I am and what message I’m most passionate about sharing. 

I’ve made mistake in my personal life too. The biggest one is with my latest serious relationship. I was even engaged and committed with a house, to then later break that relationship because I realized that who I was in that relationship wasn’t who I really am. I dragged a beautiful and innocent girl into my life, led her to believe that I wanted the “normal life” (because I thought I was supposed to want that) to then realize that I didn’t want that. I was forcing myself to want that because I thought I was weird for not wanting the “normal life”.

But again I see now that I had to go through that process to now realize and learn that the “normal life” is not for me. The biggest lesson I’ve learned there is that I must be real and true to myself and to others. I wasn’t being my true self, and it led to me down the path of creating a false version of myself because I was afraid of ending up alone. But that caused more internal issues and insecurities than it did heal me. 

So be open to failure. Know that it’s a necessary part of your journey and that life is happening for you, not to you.

You are destined for living your best life, a life of inner and outer freedom, to experience all that life has to offer. But only those who are bold enough to take the leap of faith and move forward are the ones who are going to manifest it.

I often say “the only way to ultimately fail is to quit” every other mistake along the way are simply teachings of life that’s necessary for you to learn to prepare you for experiencing the big life you are meant to live.

Listen more about this on my Podcast.